- We both grew up in Vancouver, British Columbia
We moved to Calgary eight years ago for work and the chance to have a better life. We both miss so much about living on the coast, our friends, our family, the ocean. But Calgary has been nothing but a blessing in our lives with new friends, good jobs, and the amazing opportunity to have a family.
2. We met on a blind date
Yup! In 2000, I went back to university and met a friend who wanted to introduce me to her husband’s best friend. I was a little leery at first but agreed to meet him at their house party. We hit it off immediately that night and talked into the early hours after the other guests had left. I will never really know how my girlfriend knew we would be a match but I am eternally grateful that she did. It definitely taught me about keeping an open mind to new experiences and how people come into your life when you need them and not necessarily when you want them.
3. Cathy has a degree from Simon Fraser University
Cathy received her BA from SFU in 2003 with a major in history with a concentration in Islamic studies and a minor in sociology. She also completed her coursework for her MA in history but did not defend her thesis. Her years in university cemented her love of writing and research.
4. Darren is a musician
Darren plays the bass guitar and the guitar. He has been in bands since he was about 12 and constantly has a bass in his hands. He has a love of all things rock and roll instilled in him at an early age by his dad and his grandpa.
5. Darren and His Dad Built an NHRA racecar
Purple Reign is a 1970 Chevrolet Nova and it is a drag racing machine. Darren and his Dad built it in the early 1990s and we are proud to say it has won as many trophies at the shows as it has on the strip. Purple Reign has been parked in Langley, BC at his parent’s house for the last 8 years while we have been in Calgary, we hope to bring her out again and race when Laney is old enough to enjoy it.
6. We got married in Las Vegas
That’s Right! We hired a bus and took 22 of our family and friends to the Little Chapel of the West, the only historic site on the Vegas Strip. We had so much fun spending a week there seeing the Cirque du Soleil, heading over to Arizona to see Route 66 at Oatman, drinking too much, having our stag and stagette, and our wedding all in one place. Looking back, I do not think either of us would change a thing.
7. We had two miscarriages before we had our Rainbow Baby daughter
One of the reasons we moved to Calgary was to start a family and we were unprepared for facing infertility. I was so naïve, it was never a possibility in my mind until it happened. The second miscarriage was just four months later and we were so numb and broken from the first that we never really processed anything. After those, Cathy did seven months of hormone treatments and then we tried IUI because IVF was too expensive to even consider. Our daughter Laney was our first try at IUI and we feel like the luckiest parents ever. It did take us years to recover from the trauma of those years. It hurt both of us deeply and we are a different couple because of it.
8. We have a Russian Blue cat named Joey
Our family wouldn’t be complete without our fuzzy fur man Joey. He was named that because when he was a kitten, he would sit on his hind legs like a baby kangaroo. Joey is 13 this year and still the same cheeky little monster he was the day he came home to us. He continues to have a hard time adjusting to our daughter’s presence because he truly believes he is our baby. He is a spoiled, selfish little guy and we wouldn’t have it any other way.
9. Darren Suffered a Closed Head Compression Injury when he was 20
While working at a concrete plant without a hardhat and standing on the back of a trailer, Darren was hit in the head with a three foot long concrete drill. He fell face first of the trailer to the ground. It was this injury that would define most of the rest of Darren’s life. Most of what Darren dealt with for the first 15 years was the psychological effects of the brain injury and the PTSD. For the last 15 years, the focus has been more on the increasing chronic pain from the injuries to his back and his malfunctioning nervous system. It has been a struggle but Darren truly believes that the injury was meant to put a focus on his life to be an entertainer and to be an amazing Daddy.
10. Cathy walked 100 km in three days in the 2017 Kidney March
Cathy’s Grandma Della passed away in part because of kidney disease so the 100km walk was a way to pay tribute to her. Cathy raised over $3k for the march and is proud to say she walked every step. Whenever there is something we struggle with or think I cannot do, I think back to the March and remember that when I really believe in myself, I can do anything.